Maybe I need to brush up on my boundary setting so I can properly understand what to DO in the case of emergency.
Again, it seems as though your missing the mark a bit about boundaries.
They are not used in cases of emergencies. They are a well layed out plan as to who you are, how you want to live and what is acceptable and what isn't.
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What action should I be taking?
No one can answer that but you and it should be all about you. How you can and can't live.
You have said this is unacceptable on one hand, but you also say your willing to live like this for the sake of your marriage. I'm not trying to be a jerk here, but this is what you end up with when your stuck in the middle of a whole lot of fear.
I noticed this same contradiction, Trapt, and am glad you pointed it out.
It's a sad reality of the human dynamic, GH, that once another realizes you "will do anything," they will usually do "nothing" to change things. It is only when they sense they are losing you, that they will break their own inertia, and truly begin the hard work necessary.
