Oh yes, must be my fault, heheh. Well I'm not perfect. In my first marriage, I did take my Ex for granted to an extent. But I always treated her with respect. Never yelled and ranted, about anything. I supported her in anything she wanted to do. Never asked where she was going or where she had been, other than anecdotally to make conversation. I just assumed she was as serious about 'the vows' as I was. I took for granted she'd always be there.
This is the part that noob's on this site always gloss over briefly instead of looking at it deeper as part of a bigger issue and it's an issue. "...I did take my Ex for granted to an extent. But I always treated her with respect."
So taking someone for granted is respecting them? Being lazy with the person you married is respecting them?
But since you're married and took "vows", you should hang in there regardless if the other person treats you poorly and takes you for granted? That's a recipe for relationship death.
VOWS are just WORDS. WORDS without ACTION are MEANINGLESS.
You're on your 2nd marriage and you still don't get this and if you don't fix the problems that caused the problems in the first marriage, you are doomed to repeat those same mistakes in the 2nd and 3rd and 4th, etc. etc. etc.
That's just how it works, until you see this, you'll be asking questions and looking for answers to things that won't make a difference in your relationship with your wife because you aren't asking questions and looking for answers to the real problems.
You aren't the first on this site with this attitude and point of view and you won't be the last.
