Last night was okay. When I got home, W and kids were out playing in the yard. I went and played b-ball with W and twins. Then played with the little ones for a while and we all had a good time. First time in a while that we ALL had fun.
We went in to do homework and she said she made me a plate for supper. I warmed it up, pork chops, corn and potatoes. I told her how good it was and thanks. The boys finished homework and all the kids took showers, watched a little TV and went to bed.
W said she was going to take a shower. I was watching TV when she came out of the bathroom. A little small talk and I got up from my chair. She asked where I was going and I said to take a shower. When I came out, she was laying in bed. I asked what was going on today and got the game plan, then went back out in the living room. She called me back in the bedroom. She said I could sleep in the bed. I said I planned on it, why wasn't she on the couch again. She said her back hurt. I turned to walk out again and she said she had been thinking. She doesn't think the in house separation will be enough. We will still see each other as much as we do now. She doesn't want to leave the kids and she doesn't expect me to leave them either. So, she was thinking on the days that she has to be at work at 4am, she wants to go to her bros. house and spend the night. When she doesn't work, she wants me to go spend the night. She asked, "What do you think?" I agreed that if she really wanted time apart to think about things without any pressure, the in house probably wouldn't work. I said we would tell the kids what was going on. I didn't really say much and I didn't get emotional. She said to think about it and I said I would and let her know what my decision was.
I know I will lay out some ground rules as Coach and others suggested yesterday. There will be no dating. If she wants that, we can go straight to D court.
Has anyone else gone this route of taking turns staying at the house with the kids? Is it a good compromise? Will it do any good or is she just buying time?
