Using these techniques of challenging my wife or giving her ultimatums only makes her more stubborn it seems and want to leave or get divorced even more. Yesterday she said many times she's had someone in her life control her every move and now I do the same.
Who in the world told you to tell her you were seeing an attorney?
Dan, you need less TALKING and more DOING. This isn't about "showing" something to your wife. Meeting with an attorney is about PROTECTING YOURSELF (and your kids).
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I can't bare to think of not seeing my kids. I love my kids so much, it is my sole purpose in life to keep my family together at this stage. Losing them is equal to me losing my meaning in life.
Which is exactly why I've been trying to get you to go see an attorney, to better understand your rights, responsibilities and potential vulnerabilities.
When your wife rants at you about these things, just say "I'm really sorry you feel that way." or "Yes, I've heard you."
Let us know what you find out from your atty.
Puppy
P.S. I'd strongly encourage you to seek out Greek, and her husband Coach, on this issue. Taking a strong legal stand -- while still standing strong for your marriage and keeping a soft spot open in your heart for your wife -- is exactly how Coach SUCCESSFULLY DB'd his marriage. There was no infidelity in their sitch, but there are many, many comparable stances you can take.
