For this part of my problem to use an analogy, it's kinda like being a mile off shore in a rubber raft and finding three holes in the boat. I only have two patches, and my friend says "Well fix the two holes you can control and forget about the other hole, ya can't do anything about it."
Well . . .I'm gonna keep trying to figure something out. And if I have Cel service in that boat, I'm gonna call and ask others if they have any possible solutions. Hopefully, I won't keep calling folks who advise me that "nope, ya can't fix that hole, might as well forget about it and pay attention to the other two patches until ya sink."
The reality is that the more problems that are dealt with, the more likely a successful outcome. I'm quite aware there are "other holes I can control more effectively." Near as I can tell so far, what I'm seeing is " I don't know of a solution or mitigation, therefore there must not be one, forget about it Bummed and just work on the other two patches"
These are problems that are your responsibility and up to you to choose how you handle it. Doesn't involve another person. You are responsible for your thoughts, feelings and actions.
Nobody is advising to not seek solutions and find a way to have a successful outcome. The advise is focus on what you can control.
Read up on "boundaries in relationships" and "explanatory style."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
