I still don't intuitively understand what you are saying, but maybe if I hear it enough or in different ways it will make more sense to me. I don't know why I can't see it! Though I guess WH sees that I can't see it, which is how he can manipulate me. Maybe?
The "I don't want to do that with someone..." part - he DOES say he wants to reconcile, and I think he means it. He just wants to keep his other world too. To come to my city means he will give up most of his big city work reputation, which is considerable. For us to go there, means I would give up my career and the kids their home again, and we ARE thriving here in many ways.
That is why this move, 12 months ago, was such crucial timing. And he caved in under the pressure and ran. He shouldn't have run. Don't know how to get out of this trench that resulted.
