How do you deal with the HATE?

[Cadet]

I know he is really really angry. (altho he says he is not)

There is nothing you can do about this.

I know I am really angry, too.

You can control YOU. This is where the detachment comes in.

Do you need the detachment link?

Have you read the resources? Do you need the links?

Take the focus off of your H and put it on you.
You are going to keep hearing this until it sinks in.