I haven't had contact of any kind with H in over two weeks. I haven't had any need to talk to him about kids or finances and quite frankly it's much easier on me with NC.
Yesterday I checked my email and found that my H had emailed me a e-cookbook full of recipes that the restaurants are famous for. Since I love to cook,(used to) and H loved to eat my cooking, and knowing ow hates to cook, I was really surprised that H would even send that to me. I sent H an email thanking him for it and that I couldn't wait to make some favorites. H sent me an email this am saying, "Thought you might.....especially with the TGIF ones."
Zero expectations with any of it, but thought it was kind of strange that it came at a time when I had been wondering to myself if H ever thought about me at all anymore.
SA - they probably think about us more then they care to admit to themselves. That was nice of him though. Who knows if it means anything....maybe just a momentary lift of the fog...or?
I wonder what the OW would think if she knew lol
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
"frankly it's much easier on me with NC" I know how this feels. It's must be nice considering how confused your husband seems to be to have a space without confusion.
Confused, yes. Do I expect him back? No. H is an avoider and I don't see him ever facing his inner issues. There is the possibility that he is truly happy with ow and he may never need to face them. After all he traveled back 40 years to be with her again.
I don't think any of the things that H does mean anything more than him being nice because he believes I'm fine with what he's doing.
As for me, I continue my work on myself. Getting through each day moving forward.
