I didn't have any choice in the decision. He was the one who wanted to leave. I've tried to prevent it, but he made the choice. When he wanted to R the fist time (OW ended it because she couldn't go through with leaving her H & kids) I took him back the same day, no hesitation, I was ready to move forward.
Couple of months later he wanted to leave again (he was in touch with OW almost the whole time he was back) and he left and in another 3 months he wanted to R again (OW bailed out yet again). After the first False R I didn't trust that he was coming back for the right reasons and was worried that the affair is not dead for good. So I told him that I want to R but lets take it slower. Good thing he didn't move right back because within a week after he told me that he wants to work on us OW recontacted him again and he was making plans with her while still leading me on that he wants to R.
Would I want him to stay home while this was all going on? I don't know. The 2 months he was at home when he first wanted to R were horrible, there was so much anger from his side, I was bending backward trying to please him and was walking on eggshells the whole time. He just didn't want to be there...he continued the affair and was basically just waiting for OW to make-up her mind to leave her H. Showed absolutely no interest in R.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
