I have discovered two seperate affairs my husband has been having for months now. He is apparently in love with the 19 year-old girl and has been having a PA with her since at least January. (He did not tell me any of this and does not know I know, I found a secret MySpace account...) I am in total shock about this relationship. The 19 year-old is my husband's nephew's fiance!!! She and my husband's nephew have a one year-old together! Wow...

The man I married would NEVER have done such a thing. He worked so hard to get a better relationship with his family because he felt it was important for our kids to know their aunts and uncles, etc. Now he betrays his brother, his nephew, his wife, his kids... not to mention how disgusted and disappointed the rest of the family will be if they ever discover the affair. And this girl...oh my goodness...she's very obnoxiouis, immature...

I am shocked, confused, and so hurt. Why is he doing this? How can he be so shallow, selfish, destructive...STUPID? I am at a loss as to what to do next...

M: 34
WAH: 38 (in MLC)
Together: 11 years
Married since: November 2000
DS: 15
DS: 11
DS: 10
ILYBINILWY: Dec. 2009
Living separately since: April 2010