Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Thanks everyone for checking in. Look, the bottom line for me here is that I want to save my marriage. That's why I'm here. I look for other similar situations and see if there is anything from those situations that I can learn. Glimmerman's sitch and mine are similar because we don't have OM in the picture. We have some other similarities and some differences.

I'll be the first to admit that this is very unfamilar territory for me. No, I certainly don't know the right things to always do in this situation. That's why I ask for advice. I have made some mistakes during this process that are against the DB principles but God knows I'm trying.

Gucci, are you for me or against me? I think you're for me and helping me save my marriage but some times I can't always tell. I think I understand and you're trying to get me to man-up and do things that will be more attractive to my W and stop the things that are pushing her away? Would that be a fair assessment?

Maybe I used the wrong word in saying I should take the "firmer" approach. My meaning was that I should stop looking for excuses to contact her and start NC. Actually I have been NC for quite a while now. She contacted me when we were getting ready to sell the house and for updates for the past several weeks. I have been leaving her alone. I don't want to give the wrong impression that I've been bugging her. Yes, I did send the flowers and I probably shouldn't have. First mistake I've made in a long time. I'm not going to contact her. I do get it that right now she feels like she still wants out. I need to accept this. Yes, deep down I do want things to work out, Yes, it does hurt like hell.

I know I think about this too much and how to fix this. I know that this marriage can be saved. People that know my W and I think this marriage can be saved. Hell, I have people my W and I have recently met that have talked to my W say they think the marriage can be saved. I know I have been too anxious for wanting things to improve quickly. I do hear her silence loud and clear. I know where her feelings are right now but I'm hoping they will change back for me.

I am so grateful for people reading and contributing to my thread. I hope that everyone will still check in and keep giving me advice. It is so helpful and I thank everyone for their support. Glimmerman's sitch seems to be improving and I'm very happy for him. I hope to be where he is one day. I'm trying to get there. I do think at this time I need to stop contacting her. I've been doing a good job with GAL. I've got a lot of new things going on for me.

I'm trying guys, I'm trying...