She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[steady]

This DB stuff really works. It definitely seems counterproductive on the surface, but it can produce results.

This isn't repaired by a long shot, but my actions have caused things to head in the right direction. I took a stand, wasn't a jerk, and stood up for myself.

I think there were a few things which seemed unfavorable which actually worked to your advantage. The first one was being away for a few months after it started. Although it was hard on you there wasn't daily physical interactions with your W. There's a difference between communicating through email and phone than there is in person.

The emotions can be filtered better on the phone and through email. There is more time to process before responding.

The second thing is you found this place while you were 'separated' physically. By the time you came home to the physical presence you had learned enough DB stuff to put it into play, rather than trying to do it on the fly and creating all kinds of damage.

My W admitted to having control problems, which we knew already, and that was one of the things she was trying to work on with her C.

This is good. Recognizing and owning an issue is the first step required in order to change it. This is very positive.

I just need to keep doing what I'm doing and hope for positive results in the end.

Just keep doing what you're doing and accept the result in the end knowing you did everything you could do. You have the ability to somewhat control yourself (I mean that as a general statement for every human being) but you have no control over where it all lands. There are too many variable which are completely outside of your control.

It all sounds positive. Just keep on moving forward.