Hello MrBond, yeah I am in the very early stages of that (I think). I do want to save the M, and I just can't agree that divorce is an appropriate solution here. The hard part for me is maintaining sanity. Am I supposed to actually convince myself that it's over and proceed that way until the D goes through? I just... I'm barely eating anymore. I'm literally dying of starvaton, my body is to the point where it's devouring itself. I have called to set an IC appt cause I need it badly. But something needs to change. I dwell... a LOT. Always have. And it seems the only thing that will get me out of this funk is to call it quits!
So you suggest I call it quits in my mind, but not to her face? It just seems to me that she has no intention of reconciling, and is just giving this time so in the end she can say.. "well I tried". And get a huge pat on the back for even doing that.
