Sounds like there is a lot of good going on for you, way to go!
Sorry about the whole OW meeting them. If it makes you feel any better, my H's XW remarried and her new H was the BEST of friends with kids and that lasted about a year until he became abusive. Not saying it will happen in your sitch, but just making a point that their true colors do come out. It's just too hard to hang on to a fake front, and she is definitely still in "best behavior" mode.
