still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

Gatsby-Sorry! It is like CW's sitch: my H's name is the one on the mortgage of the house we lived in and that I live in now. He never added me and I didn't think about it. DOn't worry, yes I will get money if we sell the house. He would be the landlord of the house- MY landlord. Darn, if we were still together, that would be a funny fantasy scenario!

I will be paying 90% mortgage while I live in the house when I go back to work. It is all fine and dandy and follows the law - he is giving me more than is required based on both of our incomes and based on the shared custody

CW- thanks. That is a good point. I do wonder about mixing signals though when LRT is in place. Like it is good that he is over here to work on the house but I don't want to see him??? What?

But after freaking out about it all day, I guess I will have to figure this one out on my own- hopefully my therapist can help tomorrow.

Laura, I wouldn't be looking for my next husband and he wouldn't meet S until I was thinking of maybe being exclusive. I have heard the arguments for not getting too attached before meeting the kids to see if they get along with the kids yet not introducing too soon because that would confuse the kids.

I do know that my whole being would have no issue dropping the guy like a hot potato if he was not into S.

But all I am doing is being prepared to go out and just relax. Nothing serious. I have been separated for over a year if that counts, lol!