Welcome to these boards. You have two very good guys giving you advice already. I fall in the category of a fellow LBS (left behind spouse) going through the journey but maybe a bit further down the road than you are today.
I agree with OP your H is saying some strange things but i would not worry too much about diagnosing him as MLC or not. Your process will not differ. Read the posts OP gave you. It will feel like your drinking through a fire hose but it is all helpful stuff for YOUR journey.
Up till now I am sure you have devoted countless hours focused on H and your M. From this point on you will hear MANY times to focus on YOU and after X number times you hear it from us you will get it and the light will come on...
You must be patient and strong... you are here so you are the stronger one in your M, so if you have hope for your M it will hinge on YOUR strength...
But do know this- you will get the wisest guidance here and support from people who have started right where you stand.
Take care SB2.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
