Affair busting is done as best I could in my case, albeit off my own back prior to finding this sit e. Unfortunately with no apparent results in terms of any kind of relationship between me and STBXW. Just seems to have forced them closer together. My only hand remaining is the small claims court judgement which might wake her up, and the ongoing disgust of her family. I realised today that I can only think of 1 friend of my STBXW that hasn't at some point engaged in adulterous behaviour, so it's no surprise she's well supported outside her family. I told them all before any of this happened how I felt about their adulterous acts in the past, and the STBXW always agreed it was disgusting behaviour and even stopped talking to her best mate over breaking up someone else's marriage. Some turn around there!

So I'm going nowhere except further and further from any will to reconcile it seems.

Thanks for your support JacT, and don't worry about me not eating lunch - that isn't a product of divorce, it's just the life of a hospital doctor!

I do hope things start turning around for you soon Jac.

Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.