LOL on the "double pursuing". That's kind of how I felt about it too.
I always read any posts made by Greek and Sandi. Both of them being a WAW that came back to their H really helps me to see things from the perspective of a WAW.
Question for you if you don't mind regarding the W of the separated couple. I undertsand she didn't want to say thank you or acknowledge her H giving her anything. My DB coach told me the same thing in my sitch. My DB coach told me that my W would not want to give me any hope right now. My question is even though the W didn't acknowledge the gift, did it mean anything to her? Was she at least happy that her H still cared or did she see it as more pressure?
M 38 WAW 36 Together 19 years Married 12 years Bomb/Separated Oct. 09 I love my wife Sitch