What I learned from H's MLC

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Re: What I learned from H's MLC sb2ndmarriage #1996534 05/05/10 09:10 PM
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AliSuddenly Member A Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 5,270	Hi, no he properly bombed me and walked out, refused to discuss it and was unable to give me any reason other than "this is the right decision for ME". We had been close for 12 years - 3 years as best friends then a 9 year R where we lived together and owned property. He went NC when he moved out but got back in touch 6 weeks later, but we were apart for 18 months in total, during which he never once so much as held my hand or kissed me, or talked about our R. There was alot of wierdness, such as he would visit me every week (up to 3 times a week after 6 months apart) but wouldnt let me go to his apartment (I never did see where he was living in the whole 18 months). Men in MLC pull back and withdraw and are VERY sensitive to pressure and expectations, they need their space and can become quite insular or lose themselves in drink and spending money. I cried and begged and pleased and offered MC and cried some more, from August - November, when he left. I started DBing New Year, 2008 and I came here every day and posted and followed peoples advice. Good luck. Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread

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What I learned from H's MLC	imLIN	09/18/08 07:32 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	missmyfriend	09/18/08 09:34 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	MidwesternGirl	09/18/08 09:44 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	forward	09/19/08 01:33 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	missmyfriend	09/19/08 06:01 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	No Longer BH	09/19/08 06:11 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	imLIN	09/20/08 01:13 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	Valeria	09/20/08 01:50 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	imLIN	09/20/08 02:53 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	Valeria	09/20/08 10:34 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	imLIN	09/21/08 02:21 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	missmyfriend	09/22/08 03:42 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	No Longer BH	09/22/08 04:18 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	Valeria	09/22/08 11:40 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	imLIN	09/22/08 06:31 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	hope3343	09/22/08 08:28 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	imLIN	09/23/08 02:58 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	theotherhalf	09/23/08 03:08 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	No Longer BH	09/23/08 03:36 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	hope3343	09/23/08 05:49 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	Truelove	09/23/08 10:46 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	sandi2	09/23/08 10:56 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	imLIN	09/24/08 05:07 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	Nature Girl	09/24/08 05:29 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	imLIN	09/24/08 05:48 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	hope3343	09/25/08 08:05 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	imLIN	09/27/08 02:03 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	hope3343	09/29/08 03:41 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	TxMomw/2girls	11/19/08 01:15 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	happynow	11/21/08 04:53 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	Truelove	11/27/08 10:55 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	sandi2	11/28/08 07:53 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	MsMelancoly	11/28/08 08:26 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	sandi2	11/29/08 10:51 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	sunshinelewis	03/04/09 11:37 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	Valeria	09/22/08 08:42 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	I'mstillhopeful	09/22/08 10:00 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	No Longer BH	09/23/08 01:21 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	AliSuddenly	05/04/10 09:23 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	sb2ndmarriage	05/05/10 03:42 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	AliSuddenly	05/05/10 09:10 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	Jewells	11/25/10 12:08 AM
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Re: What I learned from H's MLC	Barba01	10/05/16 06:05 AM
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Re: What I learned from H's MLC	Adios	01/04/18 08:15 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	Cadet	01/04/18 09:34 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	Cadet	01/04/18 09:36 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	Adios	01/04/18 10:31 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	Cadet	01/06/18 07:09 AM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	Trying2live	09/26/08 11:12 PM
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Re: What I learned from H's MLC	fisherman	07/19/09 04:38 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	fisherman	07/19/09 04:40 PM
Re: What I learned from H's MLC	Struggling_Husba	07/22/10 08:04 PM
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Re: What I learned from H's MLC	Candace	01/28/18 02:35 PM
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