W still wants separation, need to DB more

[OfficerInNeed]

You are right. Much of what I am doing is simply assuming. I've just been comparing to how things were to how they are now and what she has said before to what she says now. I read too much into what she says/does one way or the other.

I felt like I was making progress but I could just be ignorant to the fact she is just doing her best to deal with the situation till she can leave.

If I could just the a moment and express what I am thinking and why I continued with my approach....

Then: W would tell me she will do whatever she wants whenever she wants
Now: When W does something she lets me know, even though she does not have to, she just does.

Then: W would say "I gave you 10 years of my life, I am not giving you another minute" OR I'd get the silent treatment, W would not say a thing to me. W would not tell me how her day went, she would simply walk past me and go to bed and avoid me.
Now: W talks to me. Invites me to do things with her such as watch TV or movies. W tells me incidents at work and conversations she had throughout the day.

Then: W would tell me "I am very capable of doing things myself" W wanted to prove she could make it without me. She would go out of her way to get this point across.
Now: W does ask things of me. I am not naive enough no to think she might be just taking advantage of the situation.

What? Sleeping together in bed now equals that she has changed her mind? You obviously want to forget what she told you only
a few short weeks ago.. Didn't she say she would NEVER forgive you and it was over?

Then: W had made it very clear in the past, she just wanted to co-exist till the day she moved out. W declared her room and her bed. W made it a point to sleep opposite of me. I go upstairs she will go down and visa versa
Now: She feels comfortable enough to sleep in same bed as I. Her bed is still made and ready to be slept in if she choose to.

Then: W would say "Marriage is just a piece of paper" or "I am done with this marriage"
Now: W posting wedding pictures on the internet...I cannot say it means much or anything but two things. 1. W hates having her picture taken let alone showing pictures of herself to others and now her she is posting pictures of our wedding on a public forum 2. W knows I would view this as a sign of 'hope' and the last thing she wants to do is give me false hope.

I know you told me two days ago to initiate a R talk but she had been sick and could barely talk, she is doing better today in that sense but now she is dealing with the sensitivity of her teeth after her dental procedure. She said breathing alone gives her terrible pain....