Coach told you "why". The "why" is because you can't control it and don't need to control it. Trying to control it presents problems in itself.
Your experience tells you it matters, so truth is you are going to ask the question on this board until someone tells you what you are looking to hear.
I'm with Coach and Gucci. Let her go to her friends for emotional support. You can't control it. At the end of the day, she has to make her own decision. She doesn't sleep with her friends.
