I've been struggling with feelings of failure myself. It really is unfair - that the spouse is the infidel, but the LBS is left with feelings of rejection (spouse chooses someone else), poor self esteem (why were we not enough), and low self worth (why are we not enough to want to put in the work for).......added on top of everything else, it is literally too much at times. I know a big part of my problem and my "stuckness" is that I didn't have much self esteem to begin with.....but I digress....
It is great that your D "gets it." I often wonder what my S thinks---he is the only of the 3 that actually acts as if this whole thing is a big adventure, that he enjoys the 2 households and all of the extra fun activities that dad does with him. I know he's the youngest, and maybe doesn't really understand - but I do worry about H's choices and what kind of role model that is for our son...............In any case, we have to live with what we've been dealt with, right?
Hang in there - we're having some beautiful spring weather (have to mow again!)!!
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
