I bought The Five Love Languages book and have started reading it. Hopefully I can learn something.
W and I have somewhat reversed roles over the past few months. At the beginning of the year W was spending lots of time on FB, was talking to OM and was generally detached from the M. Most of our interactions were pretty nasty and I figured she was about to ask for a D. Before discovering DB I went through the clingy/insecure/accusing phase, doing things like asking about our M a lot. When I'd ask anything related to our M I'd get shoulder shrugs or "I'm just living day to day, that's it, I'm not talking about any of this."
I don't know if it's my DB'ing or the fact that OM is out of the picture (I think), but now I'm hearing relationship talk and words from her about future plans. Also, as I've said in previous posts, I'm getting accused of an A. I have pretty much stopped asking about our relationship. I'm not being a jerk about any of it, but I'm not bringing it up. W even recently asked, "You don't like me, do you?" That's something I couldn't imagine hearing a few months back. The latest is W is looking at bigger houses for us. I'm glad that some of this is happening, but I still don't trust her. She is a habitual liar. I know this b/c I generally get dragged into these lies that she tells family/friends at her convenience. I also know that she has lied to me several times. Not sure if I'm anywhere near ready to buy another house with this person.
