Thanks for the info about combining threads, I almost forgot about them. (OP) I have a new MC now- the last one did not beleive MLC'rs come "out of it", he only wanted to judge current behavior, I wanted to look down the road. He did make good points tho.
Yes, I am a god fearing busy body. I work all the time and have accomplished much. Think Martha S on crack. I like being me, I built a pretty good life for myself (and an Ed.S degree out of thin air,) but you guys are right, I do need to change.
He wanted that kind of person, when we were young. I constantly was trying to figure out how to make him happy. Now, I guess he wants to be more "in control". According to IC, more in control of me. What was attractive at first, can become the worst hated trait of a spouse.
