"Only talk to her like this if you are detached enough to do it. Rehearse it in your "voice." Coach yourself on the triggers and how to deal with them."
This.. is 100's of times more important.. than what you say.
There is a reason why Coach made it a statement in his post.
Pay attention to it.. understand it.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
