I am sorry that you never got a good response before.
Please do as OP suggests and check out the resources he linked for you.
IF you feel that Mid Life Crisis (MLC) is the place for you you feind some amazing advice and support...and friends in here to help you along the way as long as you are willing to do the work.
And the work is HARD. Make no mistake.
No one here should tell you if your H is in a MLC...no one here is a paid professional...that is up to you. For me, and my wife...I defined her MLC as confusion, she didn't know what she wanted from day to day hour by hour, she didn't want to hurt me, but she kept making hurtful choices.
But that is just my definition.
OP is also right in finding one place and one thread to post too.
You will get different advice posting in different places. Not all of it works well together...not at all.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
