Hey H4L, isn't it strange how you see parallels in some of the other sitchs? That's how I could see SO clearly a couple of things in your sitch--I am living it here! I'm THRILLED to have you chime in--you just nailed it up there!!

I don't remember him mentinoing a lawyer before, but it wasn't shocking or anything. Maybe he has. He says stuff in his rages and for the pat 3 1/2 months I've had scripts and leaving the house on my mind so I'm not sure. *I* think he is scared that *I* have gone already to see one. Anger is fear--and he is trying to figure out where I am at (keep in mind, I am as strange to him as he is to me--he cannot figure me out).

Yeah, I stopped going to that C a few months back because...it was just so distracting. I do agree though that I need to use my body. My H's 2nd LL is physical touch and he has shut down to me completely. My C doesn't want him to see me as not a woman. God's plan is for us to motivate our H's using what God gave us and he helped me see that. Most do it around here--more sexy outfits, get in shape and toned, flirt, etc. I have been a bit prudish and more "mom". He wanted me to be more "girlfriend". You know, the stuff you did to GET your H (and we all did it). I agree now--you should show less skin BEFORE marriage and MORE afterwards!

I think you did the right thing to quit your C--how did you happen to find that out about him?!

Well, weird developments never end.lol. I tell you, you just have to detach and then you can observe the strangeness and be AMAZED by it!

H calls me--he spoke to his brother. He asks brother to have steaks on Sat so he can spend Mother's Day with (drum roll) me and S. Ooookayyyy....And he tells me I'm invited to go down and have steaks with them, but the thing is that I made plans to go to a marriage workshop at church. He's like "you'll be the only single person there with a bunch of couples". I said, "I know, but I want a good marriage! If not for you and me, for the next one".

Then he says...you never tell me anything. I would have gone with you...(huh?? yeah, right! Hysterical laughter should have happened again!). I have a few words about how I didn't KEEP it from him, he made plans without me.

So I ask if he will go to church Sunday and he asks when the later service is and I tell him 10:30. And yes, he will go.

Now, he doesn't yet realize that the service is on marriage as well.lol. It's a whole MONTH of this.lol.

Ok, there will be lots of steps back now...lol. I'm ready!

Gotta think some more on the boundaries--I am just sitting here stunned by this afternoon's events.