rysmom's story

[TrentC]

I was tempted to call h but i didnt. I just get so anxious wondering where he is, because he owns own business and can be anywhere.

Many of us can empathize with that fear and that worry. We've also come to understand that worrying about it does no good; he is going to be wherever he is going to be, doing whatever he is going to do.

My attorney said h will be sorry in the future for what he did . I hope he's right.

It is very likely that your H will feel remorse for how he handled things, down the road. But that's not going to help you today.

In a way I hope the ow is someone new and not the ow that he was with originally, that did so much damage to our marriage. But if it is a new ow he will be in his fantasy, lustful world for a long time and I dont have the patience to go through this again.

This is totally counterproductive thinking. You are imagining worst-case scenarios and letting them get to you. I'm not even sure what you are trying to say here -- you would be able to wait for him to come out of his fog if he's with the original OW, but not with a new one?

Please, do yourself a favor. Try to go one day without checking your H's email, or calling him, or looking for him. Spend one day on yourself.