NM, I know that this is something you say you have covered but I feel like I need to say one more time anyway. I really think that you need to seek some legal advice especially now that he says he wants to go forward. Even if you are a very good researcher, you still are not a L and could be missing things that would be very important to you and your S. It also seems like you are trying to protect your H interests and that's not your job in a D. The landlord arrangement really bothers me. That's a lot of power to give away to your H.
I think that LRT for you could work. At the very least, it will let your H know that you are not ok with the way things have been. He may have gotten the message that your fine the way things are. LRT will definitely change that and that could make him re-evaluate.
