It also doesn't help that I've gained some weight & feel awful about the way I look right now. H does not mind, but I do.
I am going to do something about it though -- I'm starting a "boot camp" work out later in May and I'm really looking forward to it
I just started boot camp here this week! Good for you...I am tired of not loving my own body, and I can't expect someone else to appreciate it if I don't. The better you feel about yourself, the more confident I think you will become...for now just trust that he is with you because he wants to be, he chose to be. There was a time in the D process you both could have been done, but for whatever reasons, you are together instead.