"Wife, you asked the other day what we are going to do. Here is what I decided. I won't live in a open marriage. Unless you break off all contact and we have complete transparency, meaning I have access to your e-mail, cell phone and know where you are going to be. If you can't agree to that then this marriage is over. If you do agree to that then we will attend MC together and work on the issues that keep us from feeling loved and respected to each other."
Even though she swears that nothing is going on? I know it's wrong, you know it, and she knows it. She won't admit it right now. I understand the concept, though.
I really do appreciate you help and "holding my hand" through this. It really is counter intuitive and I simply don't grasp it all yet. I do realize it's time to get out of limbo. I was just hoping the other things would work and we would not have to S or D. Maybe this is a good thing and I can take charge right here and now.
