And also, you know I see him a few night a week when he comes here to stay with S5. I'm on the couch. How does one go dark when he's in the house besides staying in the next room?
Also, I wasn't the pursuer in our R, generally we avoided each other in a lot of ways and grew apart. So I don't know that pullback is so much of a 180! It's more of the same! Now I also see how R talks don't work so I don't know what to do! Time for a DB coach, I think~!
But I was reading one of your old threads where everyone said that NC is the only way to success...so I need to rethink this. I need to find ways to be gone or completely ignoring him when he's here - and although I can't do NC because of our S, I can do what Kalni suggested and keep it very business like and brief. I know I have not done NC = just the PMA, showing a happy me, no R talks, I have tried these and it hasn't seemed to help. However, drawing boundaries with his bad behavior has....Help people~!
