It started on my 40th birthday- (he is the same age). He cam home (lightswitch had been flipped) and said "I was going to change" "I was going to change if I liked it or not" "I was going to change..or else"
He did at this time have a "crush" on coworker, but I do not beleive it was a PA (she played him like a violin and popped an engangement from her longtime b.f. - I think using my H as a jealousy)
We had a huge, huge fight. I got arrested. (I refused to talk/speak on my own behalf-- bad, bad idea.). Ultimately everything legal was erased, but I still have terrible time with PTSD and anxiety from this scenario. Now he says he s sorry, but I do not feel like he really understands.
He has a history of passive agressive "stunts". He was never allowed to act out as a child, he was punished severely for any wrongdoings-
He used to be so laid back, he liked it when I made descisions. Now, he says I am "too bossy".
