Not Sure Where I Am

[timehealsall]

I feel like you're worrying so much about making HIM feel good that you're losing yourself in the process. It's like he needs his cage rattled a little bit.

Stop worrying about what he is thinking and work on you.

I too had cruel things said to me but you can't take it to heart, even though it was from the one you love and cherish so much. All that hate spewed came from someone who was doing crap that wasn't right and someone who has no authority to ever put you down!

If you are unhappy with the way that you look, then do something about it. start taking some classes or walking/running/cycling.. I think that once you start showing a little more respect in yourself and put more time into YOU, H will notice those changes and will come around.

I'm not saying not to initiate sex or affection. That's not what I'm saying. But what I'm saying is that you need to work on you and stop worrying so much about him and why he is or isn't doing what a H should be doing.

I can't recall if you are in MC? I would suggest maybe either MC or a marriage workship of some sort to help you reconnect again.

hugs red!