Wow, Laura= has he said this about a lawyer before? I know you have said that he says things in anger - and it's just the anger talking - is this what this is? Bait? Or does he mean it? EIther way I admire how you didn't react I would have hit the roof.
Now this thing with the C doesn't sound good for you. He's a bit taking advantage of a woman who needs some positive attention and I don't want to see you get hurt. I don't agree about using your body to get your H's attention. I think that's inappropriate for him to say and you might want to tell the C so. Frankly I just quit my therapist because he told me he had an affair with a client and he lost his license. I'm getting a woman C. She can be just as affirming.
I also understand the temptation for affairs when H is abusive. When H left I had a fling and ultimately it hurt me worse. It was actually abusive to me in anther way to be taken advantage of like that when I was vulnerable.
And yes, laugh at how you're not trying in the R?
Your H sounds just like mine - he calls me crazy, makes legal threats, blames me for his own anger...I don't know what to say. We are in a special predicament since our H's are verbally abusive. I am trying to figure out how/if DB works with such a dynamic.
I would definitely insist that mother's day with your son is for YOU and you do what you want with your son. If your H chooses to go see his mother instead, that's his choice. But no way do you have to spend YOUR day driving 5 hours to do what he wants!
So how are you going to continue to enforce boundaries with H? I want to support you, and I also could use the support~!
