Need a Plan for My Marriage

[LSG]

idontunderstand,

You don't have to offer any advice. I know things are tough on you right now. I am surprisingly doing okay. I do appreciate your support and that is all I can ask.

Please take care yourself and your family. Find some peace for you when possible.

[Onthemountaintop]

Make sure to document things. Dates, times. IF she's going to try to make you out to be the bad parent, then she doesn't pay support and gets the kids because you are the "bad" parent.

Now, remember that 2nd hand info is 2nd hand. Plus, she may get cold feet or notice that you are a good H and want to stay. See if you can keep the doors open.

[LSG]

Thanks. I document everything.

[Onthemountaintop]

BTW - that's awesome that you're doing anything for her on Mother's day considering the mother she's been.

Maybe go all out so she feels the guilt of what she's losing~

[LSG]

I am going to let daughter and son take her to brunch and buy some Sunflowers for her that she likes. I will not go, so the kids can enjoy the day with her. I am doing this for my daughter and son that feel guilty because they do not have the money to do something for their mother; otherwise, I would probably do nothing for her.

Wife and I are arguing over son wanting to constantly sleep in our bed, and he is almost 5. This upsets our daughter. He does not do this when she is not here. I guess there is some fear of losing her, but she is only making it worse by allowing it. I am just frustrated by her.

She was accusing the communication between us being my fault too. I told her no it is not that she will not even talk to me. I told her I try, and she does nothing to improve the situation. I finally gave up, but I stood my ground tonight on my son staying in his own room, and he went right to sleep.

[LSG]

Another quiet car ride to drop off W at work. No communication whatsoever. Same story, just another day. It does not bother me as bad. I am just happy when she is gone with the attitude too.

Here is to another good day for me.

[DaddyLongShanks]

LSG,

I know what you mean "I am just happy when she is gone with the attitude too."

[LSG]

I know this may seem insignicant, but I just had a haircut after putting it off for months do to financial reason. I feel so good after doing just this little thing for myself, and it does not look half bad. Hairstylist did say I have gained a lot of gray, and my hair has thinned significantly over the past year. I guess I have under a lot more stress than I realized.

[DaddyLongShanks]

LSG,

Check this post out:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1997247

"Ladder theory" in our marriages. Now that I think about it, its a much tougher road to hoe than any of us imagined.

[LSG]

WAW is so...I really do not know what to say or do about this sitch anymore. I just really do not care that much anymore about the M, but I still do not want D. She just irritates me so much when you comes walking far away saying her boss dropped her off. I know that is not true. Just another lie. I need to more Strong DBing, but I need to be in a better position financially to avoid losing my custody rights.

I just do not feel all the things I want to do now are able to be accomplished with my lack of a full-time permanent position. I want any job and fast to be on a more level footing with her if this goes to court for the Big D.