It's that the things I have been doing, GAL, 180's, etc., she has mentioned and says she doesn't like them. She says I'm not here for the kids. When I call if I'm going to be late, or tell her how good she looks, or that I can't watch the kids when she wants because I have plans, she says it is all fake.
Whenever she tells you what you are doing, thinking, feeling or might do. She's mind reading and needs to be called out on it. Ever heard this, "You are just doing that to make yourself feel better."
"No wife it is not fake. If you really want to know what I am thinking then just ask."
Here is how you lead.
"Wife, you asked the other day what we are going to do. Here is what I decided. I won't live in a open marriage. Unless you break off all contact and we have complete transparency, meaning I have access to your e-mail, cell phone and know where you are going to be. If you can't agree to that then this marriage is over. If you do agree to that then we will attend MC together and work on the issues that keep us from feeling loved and respected to each other."
Then don't be the next one to speak. She's either in or out. You are letting her off the hook, she get's to choose. You will look attractive to her because you stood up for yourself, your marriage and fought for her. You are leading your family. She will test you, be prepared. She wants to know you are strong and steadfast. You do this and she will jump you, I promise.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
