Yes, Gritt I got it. Very good suggestions on how to keep my mind off of H.
You are right about the attachment and interaction with H. The hard part is I hear about him everyday from our D13.
She is also going through a terrible time. She wants him home too. But anyway she talks to him by phone almost everyday and if she doesn't hear from him she asks me why do I think he didn't call her. And there I go again thinking about him.
I can't tell her not to talk to me about him, because she is very confused about everything. I want her to know she can come and talk to me about anything in her life.
Sometimes I think it is a lot easier if there aren't kids involved to get detachment.
