The cottage was a vacation place that my ex and I built. When she left her parents started construction on another cottage for her, right next to theirs (on another lake). I was able to use the cottage I built until it was sold, so now it is sold.
Sounds like you are doing all the right stuff. Detach, no expectations etc. Watch the ultimatums as I understand that is a no-no.
So I have been thinking a lot about the woman I met. She has two kids. I am not sure I could handle 4 kids at all. I am thinking it's best for me not to get involved with her.
Being divorced sucks. EVERYTHING becomes so difficult. I just don't see any happy ending for anyone that is divorced. In fact, in most cases it becomes more difficult. I guess I have this view as I am on the "dumped end". I am pretty sure my ex thinks everything could not be better. For her she has everything she could want in life without the burden of me.
I am feeling ok, but I want to lash out so badly to my ex and my in-laws. I HAVE to take the high road and not say anything. Saying anything is not going to change a damn thing.
I almost sent my ex a note last night. I was so sad about the cottage being sold. It was our dream place and it is so important to our children. I just felt like reaching out to her, but I did not. I am being really cold to her right now. I am sure she will view this as how awful I am.
We should not worry about our exes and just try to cope and forge ahead.
Me/W: 46/36 D7.6/S6 T/M: 7.5/6.5 Bomb 12/05/07 D final: 03/03/09
