Red,
NOT to sound mean but I think you have issues with yourself.
You need to start working on you lady. And I don't mean GAling.
Work on your self talk girl. STOP all of this negative stuff about yourself.

Think about riding down this path on a bike, you see a rock up ahead.Instead of thinking. "I'm going to hit that rock" think "how can I go around that rock" You say " I'm good enough" that is you saying "I'm goingto hit that rock".. You are good enough think about ways you can show it..

Plan a time with your H away from the boys. Picture it in your head. Think about where you want to go and what you two will do there. and make the reservations..

Doc

And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know