Living as a roommate might be a good start. It allows you two to at least be together with and maybe a chance to re-establish your connection.
I reread the posting. In this situation living as roommates is a step in the right direction. The wife is currently living outside the house in a hotel.
Going from being intimate and sleeping as husband and wife and going to roommates sleeping in different beds in the house is a step in the wrong direction and painful for the one "who cares".
