LSG, you're right, I haven't detached enough. After last night, I guess I don't have a choice.
After getting the kids in bed, we were in the living room watching TV and she said, "So, what are we going to do?" I knew what she was talking about and told her I made myself clear and we don't need to rehash it again. She started in on how I don't trust her and other crap and I got up and went outside. She came out a few minutes later.
Long story short, she wants to seperate. I said I agreed. She said maybe we would realize what we had and miss it or realize we would be happier apart. Again, I agreed. I told her again that she is the one who wants this, won't try getting help of any kind so she needs to be the one to leave, I will not leave my kids. She says she doesn't expect me to, I am the best father she could ever imagine, on and on. So, I asked her again, "What do you want to do?" She really has no where to go or enough money to go. After a bunch of other crap from her, I guess it's the in house seperation. Whatever that means. Right now, to me, it means she wants to stay until she finds somewhere else to go.
Anyway, a lot of other stuff was said and I validated and stopped her when I knew she was lying. I never got emotional, just a little angry. All in all, I think I did okay.
What next? It seems to me that things won't be that different. What kind of ground rules are there for this type of thing?
Right now, I'm fairly calm. Mostly mad. I can't say I didn't see something like this coming.
