How do I expose the affair

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Allen A - thank you for all that advice. Knowing how to act around him is turning out to be the hardest for me. When I do act happy, he acts depressed and when I act depressed he acts happy. Your last post about when they are showing doubt vs anger really helps put it into perspective, thank you.

newmama and whatnow - please hijack anytime. Out sitch are all alike so it will help all of us.

Update: Yesterday I had posted on my FB "No longer willing to be plan B". My H unfriended me a couple of months ago, so I wasn't to concerned about him seeing it. Then at 10pm last night I get a text from him:

H: So do you want me to file?
Me: Why?
H: I heard u said on FB

I waited a little while and called him to ask him what he is talking about. He said someone told him that I posted I was done. I said NO and told him what I posted and lied and said it had to do with work. He wouldn't tell me who told him and then asked me to please tell him when I'm done, so he doesn't have to hear it from someone else. I just told him the same thing I always tell him "This is your D, and it is not what I want".

H: I know this is hard on you
Me: Yes, and I'm sure it's hard for you too
H: Are you done?
Me: No, are you?
H: I don't know, I'm so confussed and don't see how we can ever come back from this
Me: I'm sorry you feel that way. I just need more from you then you are willing to give me right now.
H: like what?
Me: Time with you. I'm not asking for the moon, just a little time to spend with each other to see if we can reconnect

He really didn't answer that, so I said, "k, I'll talk to you later" and he replied "k" and that was it. I know that was a little bit of a backslide for me, and I wish I wouldn't have called him. Oh and he sounded very depressed on the phone.