Should I Tell Her to Move On???

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Perhaps I've asked you this before, but have YOU sought C on your own? As part of "leading", I sought C on my own about a week after our separation.

I went to MC 4 times after the bomb was dropped. W went twice with but it was too soon- it wasn't affective. I was still shell shocked and both our minds weren't ready for it.
She said she didn't went to go back.

I then went to IC and did 9 phone sesions with DB coach.

I feel I have gotten all I can from IC. I honestly am a new person with a new outlook on life.

When my W and I started talking, MY goal was to know what it was ABOUT me that made her want to end our M. I asked that question directly when we started divorce discussions. Her answers were a little hard to read into at first, but over time as we discussed, her feelings became more clear

I know why she was unhappy in the M. Part of it was the lack of intimacy.
I believed it was caused by my anxiety and depression. I have address those issues, but since she is not around I can't be intimate with her.

HAs for her hooking up with someone on vacation, I think I am 100% sure of this.
I don't want to bring it up unless our mutual friend says it's OK.

I am confident who I am now. I would like to give W an opportunity to show me something.

We do have two little ones and it's only going to get harder as they get older.

Please provide any more advice to me to think about.
I will be meeting her Monday morning.
Thanks, gr8