Another good day between me and my wife...but still texting going on between her and OM. I'm not saying anything to her about it because it has blew up in my face everytime before. Maybe if I can manage to keep my mouth shut, she will eventually lose interest in this a$$hole and come home to stay. Our relationship seems to be improving even though I know what's going on behind the scenes. She was shopping for sexy lingerie for our vacation that seems to be full steam ahead again, so I guess in my mind that is a positive. She has been flirting with me more lately and making little comments here and there with sexual undertones, which seems like the way things used to be. Maybe this is a sign of recovery between us, because before she totally was not doing any of the flirty stuff like she is now. I hope I'm not being setup again!! I don't know what effect it's going to have, but my hope is when we take our vacation to Jamaica to the resort we were married (it's called Couples Swept Away by the way if anyone is looking for an absolute fantastic get away) she will realize how I feel about her and her marriage is worth saving and we can grow together again. My fingers are crossed, but in the back of my mind I'm waiting for something bad to happen knowing she's still texting OM on her prepaid phone.
Dan,
This is all passive, passive stuff, and the very same behavior from you that has kept you STUCK where you've been since you started posting here. "Hoping," "crossing fingers", etc., is not a PLAN.
"Little Bo-Peep" doesn't work -- you need to do something more proactive to shake up the equilibrium here. Keep doing what you've BEEN doing, and you'll keep getting the same results. That's just basic common sense.
