She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[steady]

Wow, where did that come from.

I'll take a stab at that question - you drew a firm boundary that had everything to do with your own self respect and it had nothing to do with anyone else. When we do this the other person can only respect that at some level. My psychiatrist once told me, when a person stops respecting you that's when they leave. Her parents were living with us at the time and he told me to throw them out. I said if I do that it will put a final nail in the coffin. He said it very well may, but at least she'll respect you.

You also showed how you had enough respect for yourself that you wouldn't tolerate being disrespected. You were willing to walk away from her because you respected yourself.

I told her I felt unloved, unappreciated, and disrespected due to the way she's been treating me around the house.

Bingo!

She also said she wanted to go for coffee after MC this week.

Wow...she just gave you what you said in a previous post you were hoping for.

The only weird thing was that she had envisioned us dating. What she envisioned was me picking her up at the house and us going out, almost like being boyfriend and girlfriend. This is good and all, but to follow through with what she envisions, she still see's us rotating in and out of the rental property.

Take it with a grain of salt. Let it go and cross that bridge if it comes. She was talking about D until yesterday telling you she didn't want one. So far, that bridge hasn't appeared.

She has this vision so entrenched in her brain that after moving back to the house, she still wants us to live separately while we date. I find this strange since she's already back in the home. Anyway, this could change over time, but we'll see.

Sounds like that Zen story I posted earlier in your thread. Go read it again.

A few posts back you were approaching 'the end' of your M, and now it has all flipped around. What seems bad might be good, and what seems good, might be bad. We can never know except with hindsight.

Keep DB'ing.