Is it stupid to give up cell phone viewing rights?

[amg2]

I think for me part of the compuslion too is that maybe I'll see "one more thing" I didn't notice the last time. In my case, we've been separated 3 months, and supposedly the two EAs had stopped (one before dday, one on Dday) but he has a ton of "data" traffic on his phone which basically just internet. So I can't see what he's doing to cause that. But last weekend he suddenly has a lot of instant message traffic. I watched it one day and didn't say anything. The next day it was from late at night until early in the morning on a work night. I confronted him about it and at first his was compliant and the suddenly changed and said "I'm not in a position to prove myself to you." He's said this before about some things.

This IM thing is a VERY hot button issue if you read online. It SEEMS there is the possiblity that it was valid. But his reaction makes him look as if he was lying. And more importantly, I don't think I can any longer work on a separated M where I can't even ask this type of question and get a real answer. I think I need to go dark/walk away.