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You need to back away and leave him alone. He is going to do what he wants to do and all the pleading is not going to stop him. It is making things worse. Men really hate that and see it as "nagging".

Your best shot at a second chance is to work on your self improvements, becoming the woman "you" want to be. Focus on your education, etc. Find information in how to be a woman of confidence and then apply that in your daily life. Men find women who are confident very sexy.

This will not come about over night b/c your H needs to be away from you and to miss you. When he hears about you through friends, or he runs into you at a bar or whatever, he will discover you really have changed from your clingy ways.

When you immediately stop contacting him, he will probably be relieved, but he may also wonder why you pulled back.


The best advice is here. I KNOW, I BEEN HERE. And I didn't listen or take the advice. I just knew that I could save my M. I just knew that if I hung on hard enough or long enough H would return. We had a special bond. I seen hope in EVERYTHING.
It's been 3 years. Adn we have been D for almost one. Now looking back I should have let him go when he asked me to. Now are lives are both in turmoil.


was theotherhalf
M43
H43
M22 T25
MLC/OW bomb 4/07 Hmoved out 8/07
D6/09
Still trying to accept and move on...