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[AliSuddenly]

Hey Hopeforlove.
I just wanted to say... great that your Dad is supporting you and my Dad said similiar stuff to me.

BUT.. your Dad is not DBing and "getting mad and standing up to H more" is not really going to help your cause (well other than if you just do it internally, to help you detach, which would be helpful). If you are done, fine, get mad, get even, stand up to him and tell him to go swing etc. But, I would caution against taking relatives advice, they want to help and cant bare to see you hurt and unhappy and therefore give advice to "end" your suffering and help you move on.

It doesnt sound to me like you are ready/want to move on, so I would say, try not to listen to advice from people who dont understand the "counterintuitive" behaviour required when DBing.

Ok, so you backslid and asked him to work on the M. Just pull back now and try really hard to not initiate any contact with him. You need to try and sit on your hands next time :-) Good luck at the IC.