help some advice plse..have i finished it for good

[JacT]

The challenge I face is the OW is feeding my H addiction.She is allowing him to dress when he wants,intimacy while dressed etc etc.He thinks he died and gone to heaven.The A has been going on for approx 9 months pre discovery and almost 10 months living with her.I think the PA started Mar/Apr.
My H has told me he still loves me and will do so till the day he dies.We had a great 28 years and he had not planned to leave us...dont believe thats what he is telling her though.